My Saboteur – Hyper-Vigilant
Continuous intense anxiety about all the dangers in life and a strong focus on what could go wrong. Vigilance that can never rest.
from the book
The Judge’s most damaging lie is that we are not worthy of love or respect by just being who we are.
When you examine this lie more closely, you will see that there are actually two lies embedded within it. The first lie is that you can’t be happy with your current circumstances. Much of our unhappiness stems from this lie alone. This lie places a “when” condition on your eventual happiness; it could be when you make your first million, when you get promoted, when you get to run your own company, when you raise the kids and see them off to college, when you achieve retirement security, etc. The second lie is that the “when” is a moving target rather than a promise to be kept. When you do make the first million, the Judge will allow you a two-minute or two-day celebration before it has convinced you that you can’t be really happy until you also have a second vacation home like your best buddy from college. After all, you’re just as smart as she was, and it’s only fair that you have one too, right? The “when” gets renegotiated the moment it is about to be reached. Millions of people die every year still waiting to reach the last “when.” This ever-moving target is a mirage and a key technique the Judge uses to ensure your everlasting unhappiness.
Your distress is not caused by what happened; it’s caused by your Judge’s reaction to it.
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